The Full Woman Lesson 1: What are you thinking?
08 Sep 2010 Leave a Comment
in Inspiration & Wisdom, The Full Woman, The Full Woman Lessons Tags: full woman, negativity, positive thinking, positivity, thoughts
Your thoughts literally shape the experiences you will have from one moment to the next. Without you realising it, one negative thought leads to another and another until hey presto, you’re on a downward spiral wishing you’d stayed in bed. In fact, our thoughts are so powerful, people get addicted to them! A great example is the person you know who always moans and groans about how awful everything is, even the things that are going great in their life. It becomes so difficult for them to discern the difference because their negativity has simply become a habit. Likewise, positive thoughts can become a habit to.
I remember the days when my thoughts were literally controlling me and holding me back from enjoying the very moment. I would live for the future and always had plans, gosh the thought of not having stuff to look forward to was a big no no. Thinking of a holiday or a night out would lift my spirits but then in the next minute, my thoughts would be about how dull my life was and how I wanted it all to change. This would lead me to thinking about all the times I’d messed up and the predicaments I’d got myself into and the people who had hurt me and woah before you knew it I was even more miserable than when I started.
Of course, I didn’t know it but my thoughts were shaping my present and my future in a massive way. This is a great Full Woman Lesson and definitely the place to start because when you master your thoughts, you open yourself up to the unlimited possibilities that surround you. When you get caught up in that downward spiral everything shuts down around you and you become blind to what is really possible for you.
Take some time to become aware of the thoughts in your head, are you criticising yourself/others or are your thoughts happy and loving? Is your thinking based in the past and how bad things have been for you or do you focus on the present and what is going right for you? Do you go to work thinking how great you day is going to be or do you dread walking through the door? Are you thinking about lack, sickness and how bad the world is or abundance, health and all the goodness in the world?
Our thoughts become our reality, you only have to look around you and notice how positive speaking and thinking people have got it so much better than those who think and speak negatively. It’s not because they are lucky or have something you don’t, it’s because their outlook on life is one of a higher thought feeling. They are able to take the optimistic view on life rather than the pessimistic, you know the cup being half full rather than half empty.
Whenever you catch yourself thinking negatively, take a moment to think about what you want instead. Ask yourself ‘if I don’t want this thought, what do I want?”, then consciously change your thinking to your new self serving thought. Your thoughts instantly become a feeling, so all those bad thoughts are leaving bad feelings in your body and who wants that? The more you do this, the better you will start to feel on the inside and the more natural it will become to think in this new way.
As with anything new, it can be quite difficult at first because it takes time before it becomes a habit, so always remember Repetition = Results!
A very well known saying ‘Thoughts become Things’ and ‘Like attracts Like’.
Enjoy your first lesson, ask any questions you may have and let me know how you get on!
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Are you on an emotional roller coaster?
04 Sep 2010 Leave a Comment
in Failing Success, Inspiration & Wisdom, The Full Woman Tags: emotions, excitement, full woman, happiness, highs, inspiration, joy, life transformation, lows, struggle, Women
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I remember the days when my emotions were up and down like a roller coaster. I’d thrill in my highs and hide during my lows, always completing the cycle and then starting again. I’d be entertained by the highs usually when I was out partying, if I’d met a new guy, had a windfall of money, was out clothes shopping, if I’d changed job (for more money) or I was moving house. The highs would be all-encompassing, I’d be filled with happiness and excitement and I’d feel on top of the world. I’d often feel like I’d made it, whatever that meant at the time.
The highs were so great, I’d feel like I was bursting at the seams. The problem was I did burst and my bubble would bring me back down to earth with a great big bang. And then the low would set in. The come down from being out partying, the guy that didn’t last, the money I’d spent, the clothes that no longer brought me the pleasure they gave when I handed over the credit card, the job that left me feeling unsatisfied and bored and the home which was no longer a novelty. I’d crashed again, only to realise I hadn’t made it.
Life still sucked, Life was still a struggle and I felt it in the very depths of my being.
I’ve always had a determined character and scrambling for ways out of the lull, I would often come up with the next great idea that would get me back on track. Filled with enthusiasm, courage and willing, I’d get back on my cycle and start the high procedure all over again, never to pursue that great idea. Urgh, I’m worn out just remembering the old me!!
There have been 3 pivotal points in my life, where I have made life-transforming decisions. I’ll talk about those in another post. What’s important, is that at each pivotal point my emotions were at different stages and the last life-transformation, which I’ve recently experienced, has been phenomenally strong and powerful. I no longer need the external to create my highs, they come from inside me. The emotions are no longer a roller coaster and I spend more time feeling inner happiness, peace, joy, excitement and passion. They all come from the inner me and when bad things happen, which they will because that’s why our spiritual self chose to have a human experience, I can express my emotions in a way that is alignment with who I really am.
Gone are the days when I needed alcohol to pick me up, gone are the days when the self destruct button was so easy to press, gone is the powerless me. I broke the cycle and can now embrace the Full Woman inside me. The Full Woman that continues to grow, love, understand and evolve. Becoming a Full Woman is everything I dreamed of and it continues to get better and better.
When real life calls, be real
03 Sep 2010 Leave a Comment
in Inspiration & Wisdom, The Full Woman Tags: cat, EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique, emotions, energy medicine, energy therapy, full woman, headaches, Health, immune system, Migraine, Pain, physical pain, positive thinking, positivity, Women
Today I’ve felt like doing nothing, I’ve been dragging myself around all day and nothing is filling me up. Thankfully, I had to drag myself out of bed because I had 2 clients to see, otherwise I may have just stayed there all day and do you know that would have been the best medicine I could have prescribed myself. Tomorrow I’ll give myself the pleasure of doing exactly that if I choose.
The reason for the heavy weight is because yesterday I was told that my gorgeous cat Mia, has probably got a tumour in her mouth. After trying to fix it with anti-biotics, the lump is still there. I am devastated to say the least. Mia has been my girl for the last 12 years and has literally been my baby. She’s been there through the good times and the bad times and she’s never let me down. The thought of her not being around is so so painful and the couple of rivers I’ve cried proves it.
So why is this relevant to being a Full Woman?
A Full Woman knows when it’s necessary to express her emotions rather than stuffing them down. When the vet told me her verdict, a little voice in my head said ‘don’t cry’ and I held it together, then another voice said ‘be positive, it could be ok’, so again I fought back the tears and took the stance of one who has a positive outlook on life. I took Mia to the car, strapped her in, sat in the drivers seat and copped myself on. I was up to my old tricks again, a behaviour I no longer wanted to partake in.
Within a millisecond I reverted back to the real me and let the emotion out. I bawled and bawled and bawled, I felt like my heart was being wrenched out of me, like I was losing a child. I know this could never compare but me and Mia have been through so much together, she may only be a cat but she is part of my family, part of me. Crying those tears and allowing myself to truly express my emotions is of paramount importance because when emotions are suppressed they have to come out somehow and often in ways we wouldn’t expect.
After my Dad died, my Sister and I swore to silence. We swore not to discuss what we’d experienced with anyone. We did well, our lips were tightly sealed and the key was thrown away. We never uttered a word and our true emotions stayed buried for years. The repercussions of which haven’t been pretty. I would fly off the handle at anything, I was such high maintenance and boy my anger was very very scary at times. I also suffered with years of severe pain, headaches, migraines, neck, shoulder and back tension and low immune system. I was always sick with a cold, sinus infections, stomach bugs, you name it I would get it.
All that changed when I learned how to finally let my old emotions surface safely and in the long term manage any non-serving heightened or excessive emotions. If I’d known back then what I know now, I could have saved myself years of medication and physical pain. I will be forever grateful for being introduced to Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT). Through EFT, I began to understand the power of our emotions, the effects they can have on us and how to let the old stuffed emotions out. Before long my anger reduced significantly, it now takes me A LOT to let that big red monster out and I’ve managed to release 90% of the physical pain and illness – REMARKABLE. I now use EFT and other cutting edge energy techniques with every client I have, mostly with remarkable results.
Becoming a Full Woman is all about being emotionally available and you can’t be that when you stuff emotions down or when they become excessive. Yesterday it took me a few minutes before I practiced what I preach and that is simply, positive thinking is great and I recommend it to everyone, however, if it means that you stuff down what you are really feeling, it doesn’t matter how positive you try to be, those emotions will still be there brewing under the surface.
When real life calls, be real, it’s the only way to becoming a Full Woman.
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